Philosophy Forums


The Relationship of Recognition.
Bringing it all back home.

PrintPrint


Page: 1 2 3 4 5

The Relationship of Recognition.
unenlightened
everything is...
Avatar

Usergroup: Administrators
Joined: Aug 10, 2007
Location: Wales

Total Topics: 36
Total Posts: 3283
Posted 10/24/09 - 06:36 PM:
Subject: The Relationship of Recognition.
quote post
#1
One exists, and comes to know oneself in relationship to the world and to others. I am big in relation to a mouse, and small in relation to a mountain. Thus I come to know my size.

And in relation to another, there is the possibility of recognition. Looking at the mouse, or at a human, I recognise the intelligence behind the eyes, and that recognition is an identification - this intelligence sees itself reflected out there. One can do this to an extent even in reading a post such as this one; that is see 'behind' the words the mind that is at work; the same intelligence that is at work reading. This is what I mean by recognition. Not that I think that I am the other, or that there is a group mind, but that this experiencing, thinking, is the same kind of thing as that over there.

It is a very simple thing, and it may seem quite natural and inevitable, and yet sometimes it seems to fail to occur, and the consequence of that failure is that one treats a person as other, alien, incomprehensible, a thing. It is the source of 'us' and 'them'. It is the source of man's inhumanity to man.

And right there, in that little cliche, is the process at work. I like to think well of myself, and when I see someone, say, expressing racist views, I want to deny the recognition; that is not like me, but the opposite; that is other. It is foolish, because that is exactly what the racist is also doing, creating the other as the opposite and other to himself. Yet somehow one does not see this, and in failing to see, or refusing to see, one loses one's actual self to an ideal and enters into an internal conflict. This conflict isplayed out between the ideal that one has of oneself, and the denied fragment, which one projects onto the other. He, the racist is making a division, while I am not, and he must be 'dealt with' and not 'recognised.

And once one does not recognise oneself in another, one can deal with them inhumanely; and when this division between them and us becomes solidified and agreed upon, we can go to war.

It begins at birth. A baby has the need to be recognised, in order to learn in turn to recognise another. But all too often, this recognition is not fully forthcoming from the parents, but only conditionally, when the baby 'behaves'. That which fails to be recognised in the baby, the baby cannot come to understand,and so the seeds are resown in the next generation.

So when you read in the paper of the latest 'monster', doing unspeakable things, perhaps you can remember the baby that was, the intelligence that did not receive any recognition, and so cannot see that what is monsterous is the lost fragment of humanity turning upon itself in its blindness. It is you and me, failing again to see our humanity.

...most of our actions are the result of the past, or according to a future ideal. That's not action, that is just conformity. J Krishnamurti

"Philosophy, to the Philistine, is an evolutionary process, watched over by some sort of brisk dynamic Providence, and culminating in the supreme insight of modern thought." John Cowper Powys
Quiet Observer
Aspirant
Avatar

Usergroup: Members
Joined: Oct 08, 2009

Total Topics: 0
Total Posts: 20
Posted 10/24/09 - 06:44 PM:
quote post
#2
Fairly beautiful...

Though a little scary.
wuliheron
Tenured Poster
Avatar

Usergroup: Members
Joined: Jun 02, 2003
Location: Newport News, Va

Total Topics: 15
Total Posts: 4148
Posted 10/24/09 - 08:49 PM:
quote post
#3
It reminds me of a popular theory in the 70s that equated all the problems people have to failures to communicate effectively. From this point of view, the reason people treat each other badly is not simply because they fail to recognize each other's humanity, but because they fail to communicate each other's humanity effectively. Hence, the supposid solution would be to constantly improve our communication skills.

unenlightened
everything is...
Avatar

Usergroup: Administrators
Joined: Aug 10, 2007
Location: Wales

Total Topics: 36
Total Posts: 3283
Posted 10/24/09 - 09:35 PM:
quote post
#4
wuliheron wrote:
It reminds me of a popular theory in the 70s that equated all the problems people have to failures to communicate effectively. From this point of view, the reason people treat each other badly is not simply because they fail to recognize each other's humanity, but because they fail to communicate each other's humanity effectively. Hence, the supposid solution would be to constantly improve our communication skills.



I think that is right, but when one talks of 'communication skills' it tends to be a very impoverished idea these days; almost a branch of advertising, as it were. If you put the emphasis on the 'co' and perhaps leave out the 'skill', then I will be happy.
As soon as one says 'skill' it seems to imply that it is something I can learn to be good at in my own right, whereas I want to emphasise the mutuality of the thing. If I am terribly skillful, but you are rather clumsy, then all my skill will not help, but I must be able to listen to your clumsy communication and respond to that. When the baby cries, an erudite discourse in stoicism will not do; but see in oneself the helpless, needy, inability to communicate, and one can recognise and respond fully. Perhaps it is a skill, but I do not think it is quite what comes to mind when one hears the phrase 'communication skills'. That usually seems to mean a facility with powerpoint, and such rhetorical devices of manipulation, and that is not at all the thing. For me, to communicate effectively means to be deeply affected by the other, as much,or more than, to have a deep effect on them.

...most of our actions are the result of the past, or according to a future ideal. That's not action, that is just conformity. J Krishnamurti

"Philosophy, to the Philistine, is an evolutionary process, watched over by some sort of brisk dynamic Providence, and culminating in the supreme insight of modern thought." John Cowper Powys
wuliheron
Tenured Poster
Avatar

Usergroup: Members
Joined: Jun 02, 2003
Location: Newport News, Va

Total Topics: 15
Total Posts: 4148
Posted 10/24/09 - 11:48 PM:
quote post
#5
Exactly, communication is communion. However, it leaves wide open the question of exactly how this can be achieved and how to motivate people to improve their communication skills. logic and reason can only take us so far.
Wosret
Tetsugaku no mongaikan
Avatar

Usergroup: Sponsors
Joined: Mar 29, 2007
Location: Nova Scotia Canada

Total Topics: 14
Total Posts: 2874
Posted 10/25/09 - 09:36 AM:
quote post
#6
unenlightened wrote:

One can do this to an extent even in reading a post such as this one; that is see 'behind' the words the mind that is at work; the same intelligence that is at work reading.


Pffft! Someone thinks awfully highly of themselves. sticking out tongue

It is a very simple thing, and it may seem quite natural and inevitable, and yet sometimes it seems to fail to occur, and the consequence of that failure is that one treats a person as other, alien, incomprehensible, a thing. It is the source of 'us' and 'them'. It is the source of man's inhumanity to man.


Because I'm a vegan, moral philosophy interests me greatly -- for quite awhile I attempted to formulate arguments for the purposes of conversion, but it never worked out. You're touching on one of the reasons why here, although you are interpreting the insight differently than I have. Since I do think that it is relevant, I will quote a post I made in response to the ensuing temporary schism that followed the posting of an interview with Peter Singer:

Some awesome super-genius wrote:
I don't really think that we do have a moral obligation to anything that either isn't in a position to return the favour, is not carrying a sufficient amount of my genome, or isn't a possible applicant to my society, with whom I may need to contend with in the future. I don't think that it makes sense from an evolutionary point of view to suppose that the "floating rationale", as I've heard Daniel Dennett put it, for why morality evolved were so that we can spare, or fight for the lives of every sentient being, and definitely counter to what the science is saying.

Morality is an exclusive club, and is a social affair. Empathy is definitely one of the core principles, but there are many, and I don't think it can be really reduced to just a few kinds of value judgements. What we do naturally is to just look for things that are similar too ourselves. We are more reluctant to kill, harm, eat, or destroy things that have a resemblance to ourselves, or share qualities with us. We care about humans more than chimps, which are cared about more than monkeys, which are cared about more than pigs -- and how do we determine how we should allot them moral consideration? We ask questions about their faculties, and traits, and compare them to our own. We want them to be analogous to our own. Why? Because on a visceral level, we are programmed to do this, because we need the things that we are willing to expend energy and resources to protect, or willing to share, or limit our possible resources with, to carry a sufficient amount of our genome, or to be able to possibly reciprocate favours in the future.

I think this is how everyone works, but, everyone favours some types of moral evaluations over others, and some conclude different things from the same evaluated information.

While some people may have said that the slaves did not deserve autonomy, because the whites were on top, and ruled them, thus proving their superiority in this regard, and this is what they think matters. Success, and results of the specific groups themselves as a whole. While others will consider those things less relevant, and focus more on other traits.

There is of course a spectrum here, and a slippery slope, when do the differences become sufficient to cut off consideration entirely? And what level of consideration is appropriate to each particular group in relation to your own? These are personal evaluations, and are decided upon by everyone, after several different types of evaluations are done -- some pay attention to some thing's similarities more than others', have lower, or higher thresholds, and so forth. It is an interesting philosophical question, but from a naturalistic point of view, I think that the answer is obvious. We are "meant" to draw lines, and have consideration for others in degrees, until the group in question no longer carries a sufficient amount of your genome, or is incapable of reciprocating at any point in the future, and to any degree.

For this reason, from a naturalistic perspective, it could be said that caring about our furry cousins is probably a misfiring of one's moral faculties. You see a similarity with them, you see that they feel pain, and react to it in a way that is recognizable to you on an intuitive level, this makes your empathy software kick in, and you start feeling bad for the poor little bastards. Some can say, "that isn't enough similarities for me, I also need to know that they experience the sensation in an analogous way, or can intellectualize it in a sufficiently abstract sense, or can appreciate it emotionally." Some people want them to be able to talk, built rocket ships, and do complex math equations!

From a philosophical point of view, of course, the naturalistic point of view is just interesting, and by no means prescriptive toward how I should behave. In fact, even though nature couldn't take such a thing into consideration, and we have only had the capacity for such a short while, I would think that on a pragmatic, and intellectual level, we should all agree that sustaining our environment, and social ecology is also morally necessary.

Anyway, just thought that I would say that something having a recognizable aversion to physical, and emotional damage is enough for me to try to avoid damaging them unnecessarily, even if it results in some minor inconveniences for myself.

It may not be enough for everyone, but it's enough for me, it's enough for Singer, and it's enough for quite a few others.



Hearing myself speak is not the only medium from which I can derive narcissistic pleasure, I assure you! grin

And right there, in that little cliche, is the process at work. I like to think well of myself, and when I see someone, say, expressing racist views, I want to deny the recognition; that is not like me, but the opposite; that is other.


I'd say that treating a demographic differently because of a falsely perceived consequential difference is not the same as treating a demographic differently because of an actual consequential difference. I doubt that you would think it unjust to exclude pedophiles from holding positions of guardianship, or even geographical locations adjacent, to children.

It is foolish, because that is exactly what the racist is also doing, creating the other as the opposite and other to himself.


The difference is, that my justification is sound. Racists are stupid assholes. Maybe not at every point in history, or every location on the planet, but in my multicultural, educated western society, in modernity -- only stupid assholes and super-old people are racists.

Yet somehow one does not see this, and in failing to see, or refusing to see, one loses one's actual self to an ideal and enters into an internal conflict. This conflict isplayed out between the ideal that one has of oneself, and the denied fragment, which one projects onto the other. He, the racist is making a division, while I am not, and he must be 'dealt with' and not 'recognised.


I don't deny that we're both making divisions, I'd merely deny that their divisions are being made for sound reasons.

And once one does not recognise oneself in another, one can deal with them inhumanely; and when this division between them and us becomes solidified and agreed upon, we can go to war.


I think that we need a few more steps to get from "racists are stupid assholes" to "lets kill 'em all!".

So when you read in the paper of the latest 'monster', doing unspeakable things, perhaps you can remember the baby that was, the intelligence that did not receive any recognition, and so cannot see that what is monsterous is the lost fragment of humanity turning upon itself in its blindness. It is you and me, failing again to see our humanity.


I'm a hard determinist, in some sense I think that all of our actions are the result of circumstances, and not some magically, unaffected will, capable of divining absolute moral truths or something. I don't have to blame them, in order to blame them. nod


Edited by Wosret on 10/26/09 - 06:03 AM

"If you've got any last words, say 'em now." - Nadie.

"I am Horo the Wise." - Horo the Wise.


unenlightened
everything is...
Avatar

Usergroup: Administrators
Joined: Aug 10, 2007
Location: Wales

Total Topics: 36
Total Posts: 3283
Posted 10/25/09 - 04:30 PM:
quote post
#7
Wosret wrote:


Pffft! Someone thinks awfully highly of themselves. sticking out tongue


Don't misunderstand. I mean that intelligence is the same kind of thing, as in 'comparable'; I'm not suggesting the reader is as intelligent as the writer. sticking out tongue

Some awesome super-genius wrote:

I don't really think that we do have a moral obligation to anything that either isn't in a position to return the favour, is not carrying a sufficient amount of my genome, or isn't a possible applicant to my society, with whom I may need to contend with in the future. I don't think that it makes sense from an evolutionary point of view to suppose that the "floating rationale", as I've heard Daniel Dennett put it, for why morality evolved were so that we can spare, or fight for the lives of every sentient being, and definitely counter to what the science is saying.


Can I say right out loud that I do not believe that evolution has a point of view? A mouse has a point of view, a super-genius has a point of view, but a genome has none. Nothing makes sense from an evolutionary point of view because the watchmaker is blind.

This is the simple distinction that the OP is concerned with, and that the genius, along with one or two others, seems to have missed; some things in the world have a point of view, and others do not. I don't want to argue the exact boundary here, perhaps it is blurred, but the difference between a long complex molecule of DNA and a mouse should be clear enough. A mouse can be curious, frightened, surprised, contented, etc, whereas a molecule cannot. So unlike the genius, my identification is with living things, rather than abstract ideas or physical objects.

Incidentally, since we share 50% of our genes with bananas, we 'should' (from an evolutionary point of view) really regard them as our siblings. shocked

I'd say that treating a demographic differently because of a falsely perceived consequential difference is not the same as treating a demographic differently because of an actual consequential difference. I doubt that you would think it unjust to exclude pedophiles from holding positions of guardianship, or even geographical locations adjacent, to children.


Of course not, and I would exclude children and mice from positions of guardianship too. Nothing I have said implies otherwise.

The difference is, that my justification is sound. Racists are stupid assholes. Maybe not at every point in history, or every location on the planet, but in my multicultural, educated western society, in modernity -- only stupid assholes and super-old people are racists.


So you are saying that anyone who has not had a modern, western, multicultural education is a stupid asshole? Only a stupid asshole could be so narrow-minded and bigoted. disapproval

Forgive me, but you are missing my point entirely here. I am not defending racism and pedophilia, nor am I saying that we are all racists or pedophiles. When one encounters a polar bear, it is useful to understand that the polar bear has a point of view, and that from his point of view, humans are edible. You don't have to agree with him, but if you think he is a stupid asshole, you will misunderestimate him.


I don't deny that we're both making divisions, I'd merely deny that their divisions are being made for sound reasons.

And here are your 'sound reasons'?
and how do we determine how we should allot them moral consideration? We ask questions about their faculties, and traits, and compare them to our own. We want them to be analogous to our own. Why? Because on a visceral level, we are programmed to do this, because we need the things that we are willing to expend energy and resources to protect, or willing to share, or limit our possible resources with, to carry a sufficient amount of our genome, or to be able to possibly reciprocate favours in the future.


You are programmed, and they are programmed - what's the difference?

I think that we need a few more steps to get from "racists are stupid assholes" to "lets kill 'em all!".


I think if you look around you, you will see that it is a very few, quite short steps.

I don't have to blame them, in order to blame them. nod


I'm not asking you to blame or not blame, but to understand; and I'm saying that to understand another is to understand oneself.

...most of our actions are the result of the past, or according to a future ideal. That's not action, that is just conformity. J Krishnamurti

"Philosophy, to the Philistine, is an evolutionary process, watched over by some sort of brisk dynamic Providence, and culminating in the supreme insight of modern thought." John Cowper Powys
Wosret
Tetsugaku no mongaikan
Avatar

Usergroup: Sponsors
Joined: Mar 29, 2007
Location: Nova Scotia Canada

Total Topics: 14
Total Posts: 2874
Posted 10/25/09 - 05:20 PM:
quote post
#8
unenlightened wrote:

Can I say right out loud that I do not believe that evolution has a point of view? A mouse has a point of view, a super-genius has a point of view, but a genome has none. Nothing makes sense from an evolutionary point of view because the watchmaker is blind.


I've not suggested otherwise, from an evolutionary point of view is merely you looking at it from a perspective of evolutionary principles. No different than the artistic point of view, the political point of view, the moral point of view and so on.

This is the simple distinction that the OP is concerned with, and that the genius, along with one or two others, seems to have missed; some things in the world have a point of view, and others do not.


You seemed to have strangely tunnel visioned on this inconsequential turn of phrase.

I don't want to argue the exact boundary here, perhaps it is blurred, but the difference between a long complex molecule of DNA and a mouse should be clear enough. A mouse can be curious, frightened, surprised, contented, etc, whereas a molecule cannot. So unlike the genius, my identification is with living things, rather than abstract ideas or physical objects.


I don't understand what this is referring to. Where did I talk about abstract ideas, and physical objects rather than real living things? confused

Incidentally, since we share 50% of our genes with bananas, we 'should' (from an evolutionary point of view) really regard them as our siblings. shocked


Which is why I qualified what I said with "sufficient". Being that 50% of 3 billion is a difference of 1.5 billion genes, and we only make use of roughly 3% of our genome, as well as taking into account that some 70% of our genome is the DNA of other animals imported by viruses -- 50% hardly seems sufficient.

Of course not, and I would exclude children and mice from positions of guardianship too. Nothing I have said implies otherwise.


I merely meant to elucidate my position that discrimination, or the singling out of certain demographics can be justified. What you said implied the opposite to me.

So you are saying that anyone who has not had a modern, western, multicultural education is a stupid asshole? Only a stupid asshole could be so narrow-minded and bigoted. disapproval


Basically. As I contend that racism is built on superstitious justifications, and education, and knowledge is quite cathartic when it comes to remedying superstition.

Forgive me, but you are missing my point entirely here.


You're forgiven. grin

I am not defending racism and pedophilia, nor am I saying that we are all racists or pedophiles. When one encounters a polar bear, it is useful to understand that the polar bear has a point of view, and that from his point of view, humans are edible. You don't have to agree with him, but if you think he is a stupid asshole, you will misunderestimate him.


Polar bears are exacting their revenge for the future extinction of their species, so I'd feel like the asshole even if it was trying to eat me.

Though I would think it was stupid -- it's a bear. Bear's smarts are no match for my people smarts.

And here are your 'sound reasons'?


For racism, and pedophilia? Thought you weren't disputing that -- so why do I have to offer you reasons?

You are programmed, and they are programmed - what's the difference?


Oh, I can outline differences, mostly consequential, but the hard part is showing why the differences should matter. Without this, attempting to convince others becomes an exercise in sophistry and rhetoric.

I think if you look around you, you will see that it is a very few, quite short steps.


I don't think so. Humanity fights, and has wars -- but we generally get along, for the most part. It isn't as if even remotely the majority of us are waring all the time. That's what I see when I look around, the overwhelming vast majority not going to war with everyone they think is a stupid asshole.

I'm not asking you to blame or not blame, but to understand; and I'm saying that to understand another is to understand oneself.


I can't pull either off. rolling eyes

"If you've got any last words, say 'em now." - Nadie.

"I am Horo the Wise." - Horo the Wise.


unenlightened
everything is...
Avatar

Usergroup: Administrators
Joined: Aug 10, 2007
Location: Wales

Total Topics: 36
Total Posts: 3283
Posted 10/25/09 - 07:03 PM:
quote post
#9
Hmm. You brought in biology and morality, and I tried to follow you, but it seems to be leading to confusion. Let me go back to the OP, and ask you to think psychologically.

I wrote:
One exists, and comes to know oneself in relationship to the world and to others. I am big in relation to a mouse, and small in relation to a mountain. Thus I come to know my size.

And in relation to another, there is the possibility of recognition. Looking at the mouse, or at a human, I recognise the intelligence behind the eyes, and that recognition is an identification - this intelligence sees itself reflected out there.


Now, you have this idea of yourself that you are intelligent; where does that idea come from? What I am saying is that it has come from your relationship to the world, and specifically from your relationship to other beings. If your relationships were confined to rocks and trees, say, I do not think you could have formed the idea of intelligence. What I think has to happen is that you see intelligence in the world, and recognise yourself 'out there'. The conception of 'myself' is built from elements of the world, rather than by introspection alone. There is nothing there to introspect until it has been 'brought in' through experience.

This is the reason I am fussing about 'a point of view'. The point of view is constructed after the event of there being some eyes, from the elements of the view. Which is to say that one does not construct a human body and then switch it on, and there is a personality and an intelligence. Psychologically, one grows gradually from a somewhat vacant but open eye, according to experience.

This process is called education, and it works like this: the intelligent agent is invoked in the infant by treating him 'as if' he were an intelligent agent. One talks to the baby as though he could understand, and responds to him as though he was trying to make himself understood. Without this kind of relationship, children do not develop. (I have to restrain here a long tirade against current school policy.)

The world tells you what you are, and you have to believe it. If you are brought up rather mechanically, you will become rather mechanical, and if you are brought up abusively, you will become abusive. I am simplifying and generalising, as these things are never absolute and universal, but rather there are these elements in anyone's life, some more and some less, and a small recognition can sometimes have a large effect. So what is a pedophile, but someone whose humanity has not been invoked, and who therefore cannot relate humanely to others? And one who cannot relate humanely to a pedophile, which does not mean tolerating their behaviour, has the same lack of development, albeit to a lesser degree.

...most of our actions are the result of the past, or according to a future ideal. That's not action, that is just conformity. J Krishnamurti

"Philosophy, to the Philistine, is an evolutionary process, watched over by some sort of brisk dynamic Providence, and culminating in the supreme insight of modern thought." John Cowper Powys
Wosret
Tetsugaku no mongaikan
Avatar

Usergroup: Sponsors
Joined: Mar 29, 2007
Location: Nova Scotia Canada

Total Topics: 14
Total Posts: 2874
Posted 10/25/09 - 08:04 PM:
quote post
#10
unenlightened wrote:
Hmm. You brought in biology and morality, and I tried to follow you, but it seems to be leading to confusion.


My apologies if that threw off the thread. I thought it would be relevant, and largely in agreement with what you were saying, but it seems I was misunderstanding you.

Let me go back to the OP, and ask you to think psychologically.


You're most definitely good at that.

Now, you have this idea of yourself that you are intelligent; where does that idea come from?


Most likely I see intelligence as my best quality for whatever reason, and thus delude myself as to the potency of its prowess. Though, despite my rhetoric and facetiousness, I'm probably closer to a nihilist than an existentialist (perhaps someday I'll successfully traverse the void, if I ever manage to break eye contract. rolling eyes ) -- I just enjoy mocking my own vanities, it keeps me cognizant of their presence.

Of course I could be completely wrong about my real motivations -- I am deeply distrustful of introspection.

What I am saying is that it has come from your relationship to the world, and specifically from your relationship to other beings.


To a significant extent, sure.

If your relationships were confined to rocks and trees, say, I do not think you could have formed the idea of intelligence.


Sure. A brain in a vat would be a paper weight without sensory impute, I suspect.

What I think has to happen is that you see intelligence in the world, and recognise yourself 'out there'. The conception of 'myself' is built from elements of the world, rather than by introspection alone. There is nothing there to introspect until it has been 'brought in' through experience.


I agree. We judge others in relation to ourselves, with ourselves as the standard -- and we developed ourselves through an adolescence of pedagogical-tutelage, and mimicry.

This is the reason I am fussing about 'a point of view'. The point of view is constructed after the event of there being some eyes, from the elements of the view. Which is to say that one does not construct a human body and then switch it on, and there is a personality and an intelligence. Psychologically, one grows gradually from a somewhat vacant but open eye, according to experience.


You do agree that the concept of "floating rationale" is coherent though, right? I.e. a reason for why an organ, trait, behavior, or morphology evolved. Like when a plant holds chemicals that are poisonous to local animal species, we can say that it holds these poisons to defend against the local animal species. It doesn't know why it's doing it, the animals don't, and evolution didn't plan for it, or know it -- but that is why the poison is there, there is a rationale, even if no one is capable of seeing it. To simplify we can talk of evolution in terms of whatever works, but I don't see the problem with getting more complex, and talking about what specifically worked, and why.

This process is called education, and it works like this: the intelligent agent is invoked in the infant by treating him 'as if' he were an intelligent agent. One talks to the baby as though he could understand, and responds to him as though he was trying to make himself understood. Without this kind of relationship, children do not develop. (I have to restrain here a long tirade against current school policy.)


Uncontested. Children generally aren't fully self-aware until five, and do not even begin to experience personalized memories until around three. So for quite sometime parents are talking to an all but blank slate, with some foundational software of varying degrees of performance.

The world tells you what you are, and you have to believe it.


Ah, but I also get a say, however minute -- the world after all, is made up of myself as well.

If you are brought up rather mechanically, you will become rather mechanical, and if you are brought up abusively, you will become abusive. I am simplifying and generalising, as these things are never absolute and universal, but rather there are these elements in anyone's life, some more and some less, and a small recognition can sometimes have a large effect.


Yes, we are our parents. Though don't we all generally at least strive to be better than our parents?

So what is a pedophile, but someone whose humanity has not been invoked, and who therefore cannot relate humanely to others?


I thought that it was someone who liked children to a paraphilic extent.

And one who cannot relate humanely to a pedophile, which does not mean tolerating their behaviour, has the same lack of development, albeit to a lesser degree.


I'll bare that terrible burden. rolling eyes


Edited by Wosret on 10/26/09 - 06:08 AM

"If you've got any last words, say 'em now." - Nadie.

"I am Horo the Wise." - Horo the Wise.


Download thread as

Page: 1 2 3 4 5



Sorry, you don't have permission to post. Log in, or register if you haven't yet.