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She's been saving my semen

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Posted 07/21/07 - 07:17 AM: Subject: She's been saving my semen	#1
Okay, I've been dating this Japanese girl from my university course for some time now. It's more convenient for us to return to her house after a night out because she lives almost in the center of the city itself, her parent's are pretty rich back in Japan. She has an odd practice, after making love she hurriedly removes the condom and says she'll be back. She said she was just throwing them in the bin. The urgency with which she did this lead me to believe that she had some sort of issue with fluids or something. But the other day I was alone in her flat, and I went to the freezer for some icecream. I opened up the tub of icecream, and it chock-ablock with used condoms tied at the end. She's been storing my little swimmers like trophies. I asked her about it and she became very ashamed. I said, 'Look, I'm a bit freaked out, but it's okay, just tell me why you're doing it?' She started crying, I couldn't get a reason out of her. She said something about the semen being a part of me, and not wanting to lose it. But she was sobbing pretty bad. I decided to stop asking questions. Anyway, what should I do? I mean, maybe I could accept it, but she has become very reserved around me now, and we haven't had sex since.

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Posted 07/21/07 - 09:22 AM:	#2
If you put a piece of gum in someone's mouth, it belongs to them. If you give a condom full of semen to someone, it belongs to them unless you indicate you are only loaning it to them or you want them to transport it to the toilet.
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Posted 07/21/07 - 02:48 PM:	#3
Wow, that is really freaking weird. I am definately disturbed. I assume you are too. Well, I guess if you want to have sex with her in the future you are going to have to talk this one out. From what she said I assume that this odd habit come to be because of her insecurity about your relationship. She doesn't want to lose you so I guess keeping your used condoms is a way to pf preserving your relationship even if you guys break up. So she is attached to you this makes sense. But tell her to keep pictures because not only is that weird and gross it is uncleanly. Try to talk to her about it. and just be very reassuring and try to be understanding. Tell her their are other souvenirs besides bodily fluids (ex. pictures, your clothes sex tapes etc.). Compare her keeping used condoms to you keeping her used tampons. She'll get how disturbing and weird it is .. Hope that helps. This is either a result of deep seeded insecurities about your relationship or a very odd fetish. Either way it is pretty funny...

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Posted 07/21/07 - 06:03 PM:	#4
It could be an OCD that she's ashamed of... Does she have other odd behaviors?

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Posted 07/22/07 - 10:00 AM:	#5
god quirks are fun
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Posted 07/22/07 - 06:15 PM:	#6
lol! This is great writing material. Anyway, my initial thought was that she was desperate to have your children...but then I figured she would try another way like faking contraception in some way or other =) Maybe she's cloning you.
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Posted 07/22/07 - 06:50 PM:	#7
Well, it is weird, and weirdness should usually be a warning sign for some sort of emotional or psychological issues that could be a problem in the future. On the other hand, all it is is weird. If you are really happy together, then what the hell, right? I suppose in a wierd way it is a nice gesture... I guess.
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Posted 07/22/07 - 07:44 PM:	#8
Weirdness is very relative. But saving your semen is very weird.
For the winner there was a big three-legged cauldron to stand over a fire - it was worth a dozen oxen by the Greek's reckoning - and for the loser he brought forward a woman thoroughly trained in domestic work whom they valued at four oxen. -Homer's The Illiad Salt is good, but if it loses its saltiness, how can you make it salty again? -Mark 9:50

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Posted 07/23/07 - 01:24 AM:	#9
I agree, it is weird. Yet, while I also agree that it might be a sign of some serious problem, I am vehemently against interpreting weirdness as there being something wrong. People have weird habits etc. without it being as such a problem. I would definitely try to talk to her again about it. As it is, it seems to be breaking you two apart, and if it really is just an odd quirk of her, it would be a crying shame. Just think of how close you two could become if you were to both understand her reasons and she could experience you accepting her as she is, with as strange a habit as that! If I had one like that, it would probably be a life-changing experience to have someone smile upon me and saying that it is quite ok. And if there are some issues there, speaking about it should help a lot. But you must understand that it might be very difficult to get her to talk about it, especially if you look shocked about it. ~M~
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Posted 07/23/07 - 01:00 PM:	#10
Suggest her to store these parts of you inside her mouth...

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